5 Ways to Let a Girl Know You're Interested In Her

Here's something i thought of that would be really interesting to share. Its about the cupid life of the 21st century teenagers. Hopefully it also redirects more traffic to my blog, of course with a good cause.
*evil laugh*

"Confession." Remember in your earlier days of being in a relationship or at least towards the point of getting there? Examples like, "will you be my girlfriend / boyfriend and ectera? Well seriously, i think its the confession that truly freaks people out, especially girls. Bare in mind, there is a huge difference between like and love, crush and love. I would also certainly agree to why it is seen as one of the lamest way of showing a girl your true feelings because it ends up as more of a yes and no question. Yes, it is one of the ways, but I think a horribly ineffective way.

Here's my explanation why :
- There's nothing you can do about the situation once you confess. Why? Because you've literally given up control of the outcome. Its all up to her to decide whether it'll be a yes or no.

- A girl never likes being pressured and forced into doing something, let alone in decision making. When you confess to a girl, she is left in a situation where she is forced to make a decision that she may still be unsure of. On top of that, she may not be ready herself so she's left in a situation where she needs to decide to pursue something she's not ready for or bare the risk of hurting your feelings by turning you down. It's not fair to put her in such a position. Heard of the saying, "going with the flow"?

- You don't ask for love. You offer it, and if she accepts, she will offer hers in return. By asking for it, you're leaving her in a situation where she has to, not want to love you back.

- You're setting up an unrealistic expectation. Since you asked for her love, she will tend to see you as someone who always has to earn it. She will see herself as a princess to you, because you played the role of a beggar to her.

- You're literally giving her the impression that you're embarassed or ashamed of having feelings for her because that's what a confession is - an admission of guilt or wrongdoing.

- Liking a girl is a small thing so don't make a huge dramatic impression of it.

Ultimately, the last 2 points above are the most important as they carry the most value to knowing a girl. Just because you may have met a girl who gives you butterflies, it doesn't mean OMG SHE'S THE ONE AND ONLY!! By asking her for a date doesn't mean you're asking her to vow for life that she's gonna marry you ASAP. If that's your whole point of expressing your true feelings, then it comes as no surprise as to why you're embarassed and ashamed of expressing your feelings because your expectations is realistically way beyond her capabilities. You'd end up keeping it all within your walls or you'd just share it with your friends but not her.

Stop being a lovesick schoolboy. People who are mature aren't ashamed of their feelings. Whether you've fallen head over heels for her, or you just think she's really really pretty, you should not be afraid to show it to her. And you can show it in a way that flatters her, that makes her feel desired, and that does not make her uncomfortable.

1) Eye contact.
You know how two people keep randomly looking each other and exchanging signals with just their eyes? There's always this little timeout session where they'd stop looking at each other and look again? Well, if you like this girl just maintain and look at her just a little longer than necessary but not over the limits and give her a little smile before looking away. Obviously you shouldn't stare. Don't keep your eyes locked on to her either. Many people whom i know of tend to quickly look away when girls look back. Ultimately, don't be afraid to show her at you're looking at her.

2) Keep her Happy.
It is very important to ensure that she feels comfortable talking to you. It is also another thing that she enjoys talking to you, so much that she could remember how much she enjoyed talking to you. Now be at your wittiest and most charming, put some effort into making her laugh. Being lame turns girls off so try and stay natural. Lameness is a sign that you're trying too hard so keep that in mind. Tell her the experiences that you had in life which can make her laugh, knowing with a motive of making her happy.

3) Pay attention.
Time to "pasang telinga" and listen to her. Girls like guys who are good listeners and be sure to remember the things she emphasies on. If she talks a lot about her hobby, be sure to ask her how she is doing in her hobby the next time you see her. If she mentioned she has trouble sleeping, ask her if she slept well the next day. If she likes a certain movie, ask her about it. Better yet, watch the show, so that you can talk about it with her. You can even tell her you didn't like the show and why, because the fact that you watched it just because of her is flattering enough.

4) Physical contact.
Be very careful because this is a tricky one. If things go wrong, they go REALLY wrong. Try to be close to her, a bit closer than a friend would go. I'm sure you know the distance between friends and couples. You want to be exactly halfway in between. (Better be sure you applied your deodorant or you'd completely turn her off with no 2nd chances!) Similarly, give her a little touch every now and then, but be careful. Touch her shoulder when you want to get her attention. When walking together, put your hand on the small part of her back to guide her in a different direction. Just don't let your hand linger there too long.

You know what's the best part? All these aspects are measurable. You will know instantly whether or not they're working and where to draw the line. If she likes you, she'll will return the eye contact with you, she'll laugh at all your jokes, she'll appreciate the fact that you remember things about her, she'll stand close to you, and she will touch you. If she doesn't, then you'll know she's not interested. By doing these things, you're not only showing her you like her, you're also giving her the option of gently rejecting you or subtly encouraging you.

And if you're getting all the right signals from her, it's time to move on to:

5) Ask her out.
Just you and her, nobody else. Yes, it's a date. Let it be a movie, or a drink at a coffee house, or if you're really confident, dinner at a nice restaurant. Like i said, liking a girl and asking her out is not the biggest deal in the world so keep it simple. Don't make it as if she needs to really make a huge commitment out of this. Make sure you have a bailout plan if she overreacts. Just say, "Hey, it's just a movie/coffee/dinner, I'm not asking you to marry me laa." I must admit, its an easy way out of trouble.

So you may ask, "i've got the date...then what?"

Then you just let it happen naturally. Don't bother worrying about whether things will work out far or not. Take it one step at a time. Save the hassle of freaking yourself and the other person out. If she's been showing that she likes you too, things will happen naturally. Remember, a date is a moment, not a test to see if you're approved or rejected. I know of a lot of guys who go home after the first date, thinking about whether to confess or not. Many of you must be really surprised if you've always thought that tackling a girl is a long, gruelling, agonizingly difficult task that involves a "confession". After all, its not all about winning, but its about doing things the right way. Girls are not there to be won as prizes but to be seen as another individual that requires companion and love. The way i see it, true relationships will not harbour its hopes over a statement like, "if it's easy to get, you won't appreciate" because if a guy and a girl truly like each other, they should fall into a relationship easily.

This is how mature people do it. And even if you are a lovesick schoolboy, you should still do it this way because it's the right way to do it.

PS : Bare in mind, these are not 5 steps but 5 ways. You don't need to follow the order or arrangement. At least be a bit smart and wise at your own discreetion to know what to say or what to do at the right time. Good luck guys!